So I’ve got this ‘rising above’ thing all wrong.
It’s not about staying quiet and elegant: it’s about remaining above the ugly fray.
So while I’ve always enacted it like this:
Person: So I hear you ended your marriage because he worked too hard.
Me: (sound of teeth grinding)
Person: oh, good to see you’ve risen above it all.
It really should be like this:
Person makes same statement.
Me: No, it wasn’t that he worked too hard. I have my reasons and they are both legitimate and private.
Person: wow, you really can’t let go, can you.
Me ( to myself): I am rising above it all.
Do you see the difference?
Because I do. And it’s a MEGA difference.
There are times when I didn’t rise above with the whole Halfman thing – though I do think giving that thing a code name was possibly a bigger favour than he deserves – but for the most part, I did.
But that didn’t mean I was silent because that’s a whole different thing: that’s not speaking up to say something is wrong.
And that, if you ask me, is not rising above, but sinking beneath.
I can say what I like and still rise above as long as I have my eye on the Big Picture and don’t call people names.
‘Acceptance’ my ass. I refuse to accept when things are just plain wrong. And I’m not going to be quiet about it. Even when it’s personal.